I totally agree with the keeping the options open. I say enjoy the free meal but I wouldn't put this guy on speed dial for any reason.
You can't say that he is cheap just based off that info. What kind of restaurant did they go to, Applebees or a steakhouse? Is he a 20 yr old student or 30 yr old professional? Did he give a nice gift as well? The whole purpose of Valentine's Day is to show each other how much you really care and appreciate one another. Instead, this girl is more concerned with his method of payment than anything else after only dating for 1 month. Maybe this girl should look at how he treats her and decide if there is reason to keep her options open and he should do the same.
I dont think they were diminishing anything about the guy except that if your out on a date theres a certain protocol and using a gift card isnt a good choice, If a gift card is ok whats next? Coupons? I agree that regardless of how much a person spends they shouldnt pay with a gift card. Just like they said a GIFT card was Given by someone else and now your treating a date with it...
Anonymous at 12:21 pm sounds like he's cheap. If you don't have the finances to pay for a females meal on a special occasion then you shouldn't be dating. All the stuff you said sounds real cheap. I agree with Ray Ray and T$ a month into the game he should still be trying to impress you. Let him go sweetie...or ask him why he did that?
He probably is cheap but you had to see other signs before this dinner.
The guy could be cheap but it depends. Many grocery stores give rewards/ gas points for buying gift cards for your favorite restaurant, stores and even the grocery store itself. The guy could just be really smart about how he spends his money within his household. Especially if he's paying with gift cards often. Were there other signs that suggest that he is cheap or just the payment via gift card?
Let me kick it to you ladies from a man's perspective. This guy is cheap and he doesn't care about impressing this girl. Zahra you bring up some good points on how he may have gotten the gift card but as T$ said, it is in poor taste when impressing a girl or on a special occasion to use one. I would probably pull some shit like this with my jump off but for a girl I like I'm coming out guns blazing trying to impress her, cards, candy, dinner, sweet text, the works!